I’ve spent the last six years discovering who I am. I think about what kind of relationship I want with myself, my friends, romantic partners, family, and my coaching clients. For nearly two years, I’ve been in a remarkable relationship with my girlfriend. We spent the entire pandemic between her…

We put aspects of ourselves on the back burner until we’re ready to address them and find true happiness. For me, that has long been the expression of my gender. The most incredible outcome of my spiritual journey thus far has been the ability to slowly, continuously release layers of…

If you think your work is done, you’re probably just getting to the deepest part. I recently realized that I wanted my life to include the ability to be and feel resilient. That may seem like an odd goal to some, but it quickly became important to me. I made…

Can railing against the norms of a prescriptive path lead to a life that’s truly free and full? Most of us grew up osmotically absorbing society’s script for a love story: meet someone and date for a while, fall in love, get married, move in together or buy a house…

If you’re having trouble closing sales, maybe it’s time to consider the internal factors at play. In the early 1990s, Kim Bartholomew and Leonard M. Horowitz revealed a model of attachment styles for adults, a four-group model that is generally applied to personal relationships. Your attachment style probably found its…

How do we actually let go when our deep-rooted fears keep us anchored to the myth we’ve come to believe about what love is? As children, we’re taught by our parents or caretakers what love is, albeit inadvertently. We observe and absorb through osmosis how we’re supposed to "be" in…

Could there be benefits of core wounding — and what might we have missed out on, had it never occurred? I was recently introduced to the concept of a “180˚” in the context of shadow work — essentially the ability to observe, reflect upon, and realize the myriad positive outcomes…

What makes loving relationships strong and long-lasting — and does the absence of those same components cause downfall? In my quest to understand what makes or breaks romantic relationships, I started asking happy couples who have been together for a significant amount of time if they could point to the…

My mother’s portrayal of what it meant to be a woman kept me from realizing who I was for forty years. It took some time to be able to separate fact from fiction in what was my childhood household. When I came out around nineteen years old my mother said…